It’s none of your business.

I don't know about you, but I often worry that my work isn't 'enough'. 

Although I'm a lot closer to 'enoughness' since working closely with my Archetypal Blend, I still have moments where I look at what I've created or written and think...wow. Is that the best I can do?

Self-doubt has many things to say in my mind. 

"That's not what people want from you"

"What gives you the right to have that opinion?"

"That's been said before"

"They'll hate it"

"What if people have less respect for you after you've posted that?"

"You have no idea what you're doing"

And on it goes. (I'm sure you can relate). 

A little while back, I stumbled on a comeback that I now know guarantees to shut my inner critic up faster than it can whisper "you're a loser".

(I actually think it was something my Chief Joylogist Erin said to me a couple of years ago, when I was feeling sorry for myself due to my immense inadequacies. Thanks Erin). 

Here's the comeback:

It's none of your business.

I think it's so easy to get hung up on...well, everything...and forget that our task is very clear: focus on what's right in front of you, and forget the things you can't control. 

For example...

Mind: "That's not what people want from you"

Me: "It's none of your business"

My task is to make a valid contribution to the world. Whether or not that's what people want from me is none of my business - my business is purely to do the work. 

Mind: "They'll hate it"

Me: "It's none of your business"

It is none of my business whether people love or hate my work. Being afraid that someone will dislike what I offer is a waste of time, because all that means is that my work wasn't suited to that particular person. 

Mind: "What if people have less respect for you after you've posted that?"

Me: "It's none of your business"

I can't control whether people respect me, or not. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and their opinion is absolutely none of my business. 

If you struggle with self-doubt, perfectionism or procrastination, make "It's none of your business" your new mantra for the next couple of weeks, and see what happens. 

The truth is: you can't control what you can't control. So, make it your business to focus on the things you CAN control...because everything else is, well, not. (Your business, I mean). 

It works wonders for me...I hope it helps you, too!

It's none of your business
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